Understanding Self Love – The Medicine For Your Soul
What is Self Love?
A lot of people look at the concept of self-love on an external basis- dressing up, putting on some glamorous makeup and splurging money on oneself. Well, self-love is a lot more than this. Self-love can be explained in terms of the appreciation that you have for yourself. It is an internal process which requires patience and the outcome is indeed confidence and happiness. Self-love is a product of the compassion and kindness that one shows to themselves in order to groom themselves from the inside- mentally, emotionally and physically.
The 4 “S” of Self-love: The Magical Contents!
Before we get into the aspects of self-love, let’s do an activity that will help you understand these governing rules better!
Activity: Take a small paper and write a positive statement/affirmation: “I am beautiful, I am positive, and I know that today is going to be a good day filled with wonderful events” and stick this on your mirror. Wake up each morning and read this out loud to yourself, get ready, and go out to work. Repeat this each day for 1 week. Notice how you feel.
This is the key that opens the door to other possible aspects of “self”. Having awareness about yourself and identifying the good and bad, strengths and weaknesses, allows you to block the negativity, work on your troubled areas, and also makes you emotionally intelligent.
Self-worth can be described as how you view yourself. It also means being able to value ourselves no matter what. Unfortunately, due to many negative life events, our self-worth tends to get distorted and we might talk ourselves into believing that we do and do not deserve certain things.
The worth we hold on to ourselves determines our self-esteem. When we have high regard and value for ourselves, our self-esteem automatically boosts up. Hence, it is important to be aware of how we are emotionally and mentally. This will lead to acceptance and make us value our strengths more. When we block out the negativity by being “highly valued” our self-esteem will alleviate.
Self-care and self-love go hand-in-hand. Self-care includes activities or initiations that are consciously taken to care for yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. It could be anything that you like, following your hobbies, having a pamper session or simply taking therapy for your problems. They expose you to your inner self, induce positivity, and in turn increase self-esteem. The end product is SELF LOVE!
Lack of Self Love: What is stopping you?
Being unaware of your strengths can be one of the main causes of low self-worth and self-esteem. When you are unaware of your good and bad, it is common to invite negativity by way of criticism. It is always fruitful to do activities and introspect to gain self-awareness.
Let’s accept it, we know our negatives but refuse to own it and ignore them eventually. Well, we forget that all of us have some shortcomings and can always improve. The inability to accept ourselves, make us look only at our negatives more, ignoring other parts of the personality. That is where the lack of self-love comes from- focusing and not embracing our weaknesses.
This is like a disease tough to fight with! Comparing your success with others, your physical appearances or even internal qualities does no good. Instead, it makes you look at yourself in a bad light and crushes your self-worth. You do not want to underestimate your accomplishments as that can harm your self-esteem gravely. So, STOP COMPARING!
This is indeed a sad truth and cannot be dodged. We have all gone through the scrutiny and criticisms of the people around us and comparisons that cannot be escaped. This can lead us to doubt ourselves, harming our worth and esteem. Well, the good news is we can snap out of these self-doubts if we truly know how we are. Taking time off and introspecting, to brush off these doubts is an excellent way to turn self-doubt into self-praise.
How to fix and love yourself? The pill is in your hands!
That is where some of us lack- we point and whine over our short-comings, but forget to tell ourselves that “it’s okay, not to have it”. We are not superhumans to have every good quality or extreme intelligence. Self-love is about accepting and embracing our negatives, trying to improvise them while being positive. So, accept who you are, as no one is you and that is your power!
It is easy to show compassion to the ones we love- yes, read that again. If we love ourselves, we would be kind and have a concern for our well-being as well. Taking care of yourself when in failure, allowing yourself to feel every emotion, and giving yourself a priority without pushing your boundaries are some ways you can be self-compassionate.
Being mindful means being aware of your “now”. When mindfulness becomes a way of life, it gradually allows you to be aware of your actions, and be kind to yourself. Mindfulness also makes you see your tough parts and work on them. Being mindful could indeed be considered a road to self-love!
This is the fun part of the self-love process. This is your personal space where you can identify who you really are by indulging in healthy activities. So prep up for your weekly skincare routine or go buy some of your favourite food items, or exercise– anything that can make you feel peaceful and confident on the inside!
The road to self-love is a long journey and takes time. So, trust yourself: not only the process you are putting yourself through but also the awareness and the inborn qualities you have. Trusting yourself is a positive validation that you give yourself of who you are and is essential to your self-worth
Just love yourself - Because why not?
Think about this- you are a unique person and no one else is like you. This itself should be your motivation to embrace your identity. Every individual is worthy of positivity, love, respect, and goodness and you are too. So, even if you have no reason to love yourself– love yourself because you are you and no one can be you!
The following content is for information purposes only. We, in no way claim or assure that using the information can be a substitute for any kind of medical treatment if any. If you are diagnosed with any kind of medical/clinical condition please do not avoid visiting a professional.
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